A Open letter to Representative Maggie O’Neil

Maine House District 15, Saco

Mrs. O’Neal

I agree that domestic violence in any form is unconscionable in any form, victims of said abuse should receive all available protections and support to prevent any reoccurrence.  I have personally dealt with countless instances of emotional and physical abuses before age 12, with my first hospitalization and foster home at age 4. Ironically enough, this campaign of parental alienation began just before our son’s 12th birthday.  Any abuser and claims of abuse should fully vetted, investigated, and prosecuted.  In this case, I have provided overwhelming verifiable evidence showing the victimization and emotional abuse of a child and father at the hands of a corrupt system in support of a mothers vindictive baseless abuse allegations unsupported by facts, evidence or investigation. Persons making false claims of abuse are in kind perpetrators and as such should be prosecuted with the same veracity. 

Excuse me if I do not accept the previously unknown one-hour conversation you say you had on my behalf as progress in my case.  My requests for information, equality, and justice have been thwarted and dismissed as the obstacles to my parenting increase.  In contrast, the state system provides unflinching support, advocacy, and assistance at the mere mention of abuse by the perpetrator in this case.  Despite being amicable and following established procedures, I continue to be stonewalled at all levels of the system, countless legal motions and method as i search for justice, for example:

July 2019, Michelle King, Maine DHHS – In letter responding to my grievance where Maine behavioral Healthcare falsified medical records.

“rights of recipients, does not guarantee competent mental healthcare.”

October 2019, Amy Sylvester, Legislative Aide for Representative Maggie O’Neil, Maine House Majority Office

“unfortunately, the Legislature does not have the authority or the resources to undertake such an investigation.”

“I recognize that this response must be frustrating. I am sorry I’m not able to offer more in the way of assistance at this time and hope you understand that this doesn’t reflect in any way on the merits of your case. It is just outside the scope of potential legislative action – but, again, pursuing legal action does seem like the way forward.”

October 2020, Donna Bailey, on outlining the abuses, requesting executive judicial oversight and revie of applicable laws.

“those principles are already encapsulated in our statutes, Constitution and cases.”

“Good luck with your advocacy.”

October 2019, Martha Currier, Director of Constituent Casework, Office of Governor Janet Mills – in requesting a meeting and independent review.

“Governor Mills reviewed your requests to meet and has determined that only the courts can decide the outcome in this matter. You should continue to seek private legal advice to see what legal remedies may be available to you.”

I am perplexed how reaching out to my elected leaders, publicly demanding action and my showcasing the politically motivated move to vote down legislation strengthening parental equality rights within a system which has destroyed my financial security and is victimizing my son. You may not like my words or the method of delivery, I have reached out in good faith, with respect and maintained a focus on an issue impacting many of your constituents regardless of sex or political affiliation. My actions have not risen to the standard of attacking or abuse.  You diminish the plight of domestic violence victims when you draw parallels as you have. I am in no way personally attacking you or threatening harm upon you. 

  1. As someone having suffered domestic abuse, how do you feel about a mother using false allegations to alienate a son from a father and manipulate the family law process and diverting resources from a party in need?
  2. Why are you not more alarmed or concerned?
  3. Do you find it concerning that the Maine Law Court, ruled that Maine District Court violated my Constitutional Rights in denying my request to cross examine Guardian ad litem Jeanette Durham despite her being present at the final hearing and over my objection?
  4. Are you concerned that Maine Behavioral Healthcare fabricated medical records and accepted baseless allegations as fact in a mother’s campaign to alienate a son from his father.

Leaders such as you have the ability to give voice to Parents abused by a corrupt system a voice, instead you chose to parrot the words of Rep Donna Bailey. You have worked counter to your oath of office and the interests of your constituents. You as my elected representative are responsible for a system that routinely alienates loving parents from enables the emotional abuse of their children.  As is clear here, you can choose to act or not.  Voters should know if you work for them, words do little when action is required.  I am committed to effecting changes and ending this cycle of corruption and abuse tearing families apart.  To be fair, I am not sure if your opponent is any better.  I am just getting started and whether you win re-election or not I will remain focused on effecting the necessary changes to this broken and corrupt system. 

Thank you,

Patrick Leary, Committed Father & Parental Rights Advocate

Additional Information:  https://www.facebook.com/PatrickRLeary/posts/10165122552125377.

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Anne Hathaway delivers Women’s Day address at United Nations [Full Speech HD 1080p]

UN Women Global Goodwill Ambassador Anne Hathaway on Wednesday delivered a keynote address at the United Nations Headquarters in New York City, in commemoration of International Women’s Day. This is her first public appearance in this role.

Today, on International Women’s Day, I would like to thank all those who went before in creating our current policies,” Hathaway said. “Let us honor them and build upon what they started by shifting our language, and therefore our consciousness, away from gender and towards opportunity.

Anne Hathaway delivers Women’s Day address at United Nations [Full Speech HD 1080p]

I have to admit that my perspective shifted a bit as I watched the full speech by Anne Hathaway and was surprised to see her identify a path forward that empowers the cause of men and women alike, showing a common cause between the Women’s Rights Movement and the Father’s rights Movement. In focusing on the best interest of our children and recognizing the right and most importantly the responsibility of both parents to nurture, love and provide for our children. Laws must be constructed to strengthen and empower the uniqueness of each and every one of our families.


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Regardless of your position on gender equality documentary film maker and now ex-feminist, Cassie Jaye makes you think as she comes to terms with the Men’s Rights movement through her work on The Red Pill Movie (When feminist filmmaker Cassie Jaye sets out to document the mysterious and polarizing world of the Men’s Rights Movement, she begins to question her own beliefs. Jaye had only heard about the Men’s Rights Movement as being a misogynist hate-group aiming to turn back the clock on women’s rights, but when she spends a year filming the leaders and followers within the movement, she learns the various ways men are disadvantaged and discriminated against. The Red Pill challenges the audience to pull back the veil, question societal norms, and expose themselves to an alternate perspective on gender equality, power, and privilege.)

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Benefits of Shared Parenting

There is a lot that needs to be considered before, during and after a divorce or separation. When kids are in the picture, coparents must think about is how parenting responsibilities should be shared. There are some who may think that the sharing of parenting time and responsibilities causes more harm and stress on the kids, but if done right, the benefits of shared parenting can outweigh the disadvantages for several reasons. Shared parenting offers families the benefits of both parents building relationships with their kids, encouraging healthy child development, and creating a platform for parents to collaborate efforts for their child’s well-being.
If done right, the benefits of shared parenting can spread across the entire family. One way that these benefits are shared is by direct interactions between both parents and their children. When the relationship ends and parents move into separate homes, children sometimes fear that they will lose touch with the parent who moves out or that their relationship will never be the same again. Allowing kids to spend time in both of their parents’ homes will benefit kids in helping them to feel less like they are forced to take sides. It will also help kids to understand that they were not abandoned by either of their parents after the split. Parents are also going through a difficult time with all the changes happening around them; it is not easy for them to have to reduce the amount of time that they spend with the kids, too. Regular contact between the kids and each parent helps to reduce these feelings of loss on everyone’s part. Even though the intimate relationship between parents has ended, this does not mean that being a family ends as well. Shared parenting time allows for children to continue cultivating relationships with each of their parents individually. A parenting time arrangement will be an important piece that dictates the amount of time each parent spends with their kids. A 50/50 parenting time plan will allocate each parent with equal time, but this is not always the best fit for every family. No matter what the parenting time agreement becomes, parents and kids can still be in touch with each other when they are not together via phone, text, email, or even webcam. If done right, technology can benefit shared parenting by keeping a family in touch even when they cannot all be together physically. Staying in touch even when apart helps parents and kids to maintain relationships and lessen the emotional stress of being apart.
Shared parenting benefits run deeper than simply fostering relationships within a family. If done right, shared parenting can also encourage healthy child development. Children have different emotional needs at different stages of their lives. Very young kids might be vocal about how much they miss Mom or Dad when they are not with one of them, and some teenagers might seem indifferent about which parent they are staying with. The reverse of these two scenarios is also possible, meaning that every child truly is different no matter their age. When children are still very young, they often benefit from spending ample time with each of their parents. They are still constructing relationships with both, and these bonds formed early in a child’s life help to develop long-standing trust and friendship. As kids get older and have more responsibilities like school or part-time jobs, it might become more difficult to have frequent parenting time transitions. While there may be less frequent transitions, periods of parenting time might last longer than before. This gives a child an opportunity to focus more on their own responsibilities while not having to worry about getting packed to go to their other parent’s house so often. Technology helps families stay connected in these cases when someone is away for a period, so parents and kids should be able to reach each other whenever they need to even when apart. With the bonds that parents and kids developed early on and continue to cultivate today, plus the technology that allows them to stay connected, being away from each other might not feel as hard as it could. If done right, having these factors in place help to promote healthy emotional development in kids in the long run.
Encouraging healthy development in kids is something both parents should do. If done right, parents should be working to collaborate their efforts in this instead of working against each other. Shared parenting often calls for the parents to discuss matters regarding their kids and their schedule, so a need for communication is created. For many parents who have unsettled disputes between them, just talking to each other might be difficult enough. Finding a neutral ground for communication, such as an online platform that does not require face-to-face or phone communication, can help to isolate potentially heated conversations to a place where the kids cannot observe it. When you must meet with your co-parent directly for an event such as a parenting time exchange, you can keep your interaction between each other brief and reserve anything you might want to say to your neutral communication platform. When parents can set aside conflicts in front of the kids, everyone benefits. One benefit is that children will see their parents as positive role models for how to communicate in a cordial manner with others. Another benefit is that unwanted anxiety and stress will be lifted off the kids’ shoulders by not watching their parents argue. By putting this kind of communication into practice, parents can build an amicable relationship over time that is centered on collaborating efforts for the sake of their children’s well-being.
The benefits of shared parenting might not seem apparent to some at first, but if done right, they can be great. Shared parenting gives both parents the opportunity to cultivate their relationships with their kids, which also helps kids to develop to be emotionally healthy. It also creates an opportunity for coparents to work together for the sake of their kids. The wellbeing of the kids should always be kept at the forefront when making parenting decisions, and coparents who are keeping this in mind are on the right track to making shared parenting work.

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